Today , lets talk about friends.How many of us have good friends???
Here good friends mean that they should be around you ,they should help you and you should feel secure around them.
Lets see,do your friends ignore you all the time,how do you feel around them, you feel threatened or you feel like you have to ignore them or you feel like you have been ignored.
All you need to know is the types of friends that you are dealing with.They are different types of friends that you try to deal with all day.Is that the best thing that you can do to yourself. Dont try to deal with your friends.
The first thing that you have to do is that you should make yourself feel comfortable around your friends.
They are different types of friends that you can possibly head to.They are
1.The one that lets you do whatever you want.
2.The one that does what you say.
3.The one that shuts you from everything.
4.The one that disrespects you before someone.
5.The one that hates you from the inside.
6.The one that tries to cheer you up before others.
7.The one that tries to back stab behind your back.
8.The one that tries to make you feel good.
See they are a lot of types that you can see in your friend.What do you really do to find your best buddy or your BFF?????
Do you check the kind of qualities in your friends.
Lets see.
When you learn that you friend is doing something that you dont like,just say it. Dont be hanging around all the time.Do you really do all the things your friend say without even asking him or her.Do you agree to whatever your friend say? just ask these questions to your self.What are you trying to get your BFF?
The answer is very simple.You need not bow before someone,so that they have to agree you. No,Dont do that.First you friend should be in a condition to help,talk,chat and play and give suggestions rather than gushing you to make you do things.I am not saying you to not to do things in order to help people.I am trying to say that ,is that you should do things what make you right.It should make you feel good.
For example lets take a situation.
You and your friends are chatting and in between they started to back stab or gossip about someone.You didn't like like.Even without saying what you feel,you remained silent cause you are in a fear of losing your friends. If having a voice might loose any friend of yours means that you are not in a good relationship with your friends.Everyone should have a voice. If you are doing something bad your friend should have the voice to say that you're doing wrong.Same applies to your friend too.
If yo and your friend are doing something good you should have the comfort to say each other that you both are doing good.Why matter friendship unless you dont have the right to speak up your own voice.
Another example to consider is that when you are gone shopping.
You and your friend both went shopping and you are trying on different dresses .Here the situation must be that both should be indulging in a healthy conversation.
You should be the one telling your friend what are the dresses that compliments her and what are not. Same applies to him/her too. Your friend should not get angry when you say "This dress doesn't look good ".If your'e friend gets angry by listening to that, you friend needs to understand that you are not judging him/her. Lets say even it applies vie-versa.
Just by saying which dress is complimenting you doesn't make you bad.Its just a way of deciding what best compliments her.
When you are talking with you're class mates,there will one friend that tries to steal all your friends by making them feel that your bad. This type of friend will be the one back stabbing you from behind and tries to start gossiping about you.
Dont try to put put a fight with him/her.Just ignore that kind of energy from coming to you.If you have good friends ,then you need not worry honey.All you need is to do your own business.
( to be continued )
Here good friends mean that they should be around you ,they should help you and you should feel secure around them.
Lets see,do your friends ignore you all the time,how do you feel around them, you feel threatened or you feel like you have to ignore them or you feel like you have been ignored.
All you need to know is the types of friends that you are dealing with.They are different types of friends that you try to deal with all day.Is that the best thing that you can do to yourself. Dont try to deal with your friends.
The first thing that you have to do is that you should make yourself feel comfortable around your friends.
They are different types of friends that you can possibly head to.They are
1.The one that lets you do whatever you want.
2.The one that does what you say.
3.The one that shuts you from everything.
4.The one that disrespects you before someone.
5.The one that hates you from the inside.
6.The one that tries to cheer you up before others.
7.The one that tries to back stab behind your back.
8.The one that tries to make you feel good.
See they are a lot of types that you can see in your friend.What do you really do to find your best buddy or your BFF?????
Do you check the kind of qualities in your friends.
Lets see.
When you learn that you friend is doing something that you dont like,just say it. Dont be hanging around all the time.Do you really do all the things your friend say without even asking him or her.Do you agree to whatever your friend say? just ask these questions to your self.What are you trying to get your BFF?
The answer is very simple.You need not bow before someone,so that they have to agree you. No,Dont do that.First you friend should be in a condition to help,talk,chat and play and give suggestions rather than gushing you to make you do things.I am not saying you to not to do things in order to help people.I am trying to say that ,is that you should do things what make you right.It should make you feel good.
For example lets take a situation.
You and your friends are chatting and in between they started to back stab or gossip about someone.You didn't like like.Even without saying what you feel,you remained silent cause you are in a fear of losing your friends. If having a voice might loose any friend of yours means that you are not in a good relationship with your friends.Everyone should have a voice. If you are doing something bad your friend should have the voice to say that you're doing wrong.Same applies to your friend too.
If yo and your friend are doing something good you should have the comfort to say each other that you both are doing good.Why matter friendship unless you dont have the right to speak up your own voice.
Another example to consider is that when you are gone shopping.
You and your friend both went shopping and you are trying on different dresses .Here the situation must be that both should be indulging in a healthy conversation.
You should be the one telling your friend what are the dresses that compliments her and what are not. Same applies to him/her too. Your friend should not get angry when you say "This dress doesn't look good ".If your'e friend gets angry by listening to that, you friend needs to understand that you are not judging him/her. Lets say even it applies vie-versa.
Just by saying which dress is complimenting you doesn't make you bad.Its just a way of deciding what best compliments her.
When you are talking with you're class mates,there will one friend that tries to steal all your friends by making them feel that your bad. This type of friend will be the one back stabbing you from behind and tries to start gossiping about you.
Dont try to put put a fight with him/her.Just ignore that kind of energy from coming to you.If you have good friends ,then you need not worry honey.All you need is to do your own business.
( to be continued )
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